Teachers or Judges? What do your mistakes do for living?

How much time have we spent judging ourselves for the mistakes we've made? "I shouldn't have..., only if I didn't... why was I so naive?... I wish I could go back..." Well... what if our mistakes were just meant to be? What if they were exactly what we had to do in order to become who we are? We tend to judge our actions as a failures or successes because we make the "mistake" of comparing their outcomes to an imaginary expectation that we pictured in our head. Well, that expectation was never real in the first place, it was "just" in our head. What is real, instead, is the behavioral pattern that we set in action when at a crossroad we decide which way to go: left or right? In that moment, we are literally assaulted by our emotions telling us to go either way or even both ways, thus keeping us in a never ending loop until the strongest feeling takes a decision for us. Sometimes we even believe we are taking "logical" decisions, thus